I need some ace arguments or debate points for an upcoming discussion about getting a horse for my 14th birthday. Let me tell you the background information: I am 14 in february. I am going to ask to start planning for the horse in late january or early feb when the parents ask what i would like for my birthday, for the horse to be bought in late march to mid april. I have been riding two/three years officially, but I had my first few rides when I was 9. I am currently sharing a horse four days a week. During those four days I do everything for the horse- bring her in, muck out, fill haynets, groom her, change her rugs, do waterbuckets and her feet, etc. Because its winter, unmistakably, noting the Big Freeze in the UK, which is where I live, it of course means a lot more work, horse-wise. It also means that in the past 6 weeks, which is the time I’ve been sharing the horse, I’ve only ridden her three or four times, because it gets dark quickly and its been so icy. My dads main point against is that he wants to know I’m commited to horses. To be honest, i go up all the time in -8 degrees c, work for hours and hardly ever ride, i even did xmas eve, xmas day and boxing day without complaints, and i’m still prepared to carry on is proof that I’m commited I think. I have saved up some money for christmas that I can contribute towards costs, although my dad has mentioned that money isnt the problem, but he wants to be certain I’m ready. I know I will be starting my GCSES soon but as there is a new law that all coursework has to be done at school, i am pretty sure it means less after school work but a lot more classwork. Even if there is a lot of work, my school finishes at 3:30, I’m changed and up at the yard by 3:45 and usually home by about 4:40 if im quick. I dont go to bed until about half ten, so theres plenty of time for horse and work.
Just to be clear, I do love my share horse, but I think she is too big for me to handle (she crushed my foot yesterday and I had to go to hospital, and she was much bigger than I’d hope to have when I was looking for a share horse, but there wasnt many share options in my area), and also the fact that I feel quite limited with her. I cant go to shows, I cant jump on her even though jumping is my favourite, because she had an injury, and shes 18, which i know is still young-ish but I’d have to enter veteran classes at shows and shes not as speedy as I would have liked. Despite this she is incredibly kind and patient (the foot thing was an accident) and has the perfect temperament for a first horse. Also im a bit of a worrier, I worry when its not my day to do her because the other girl who shares her puts the water buckets right near where she poos, so I’ve found several rather nasty buckets of water, I found string in her bedding and rugs dumped on her stable floor, in the poo, which I’ve had to handle and clean.
Those are my current arguments. Can you think of any other points for or against that me or my dad might come up with? What do you think of my situation? And when I say arguments, I mean a calm, non shouting discussion that we happen to be on different sides of. I havent raised any of these points with my dad yet by the way.
Thanks, and sorry its so long!
By the way, we dont go to college (Uni) till at the earliest 18, but I was planning a gap year so it would be 19. I did mention money, and my dad has said that money isnt a major problem. My mum grew up aroud horses and she knows how much it costs. I know that i could stay with a share horse, but I’d much prefer my own, for reasons I listed above, and my friends have horses and they go up every day and I feel left out sometimes because the go on rides and have fun without me.
He hasnt made up his mind, cos I havent asked him yet, so y’know…
Hi there , point out to your dad how responsible you’ve been by sharing a horse which meant you caring for it as well as the enjoyment side[riding] also you have been having riding lessons with a profrsiProfessional teacher, and maybe he/she would give you a written letter to your dad saying what your ridiing standaStandardalso because your mum was brought up with horses you’l have her to help at times when you need it, i know you said you want a horse in feb/march but this is not the ideal time to get one ;summer time is the best for buying a horse , this is what my tutor says, i am currently studying horsecare at college, just passed my first exam thank goodness! anyway in summer you and your parents could have some great days out looking for a horse for you best wishes to you hope you get your dream,